LOVE IN SCHOOL, IT IS APPROPRIATE??

               Teenagers is a very valuable asset for a country, this is a generation and future leaders in the continuing struggle of the present leaders towards the development and progress of the society and the state. Therefore, any question arises as to the teenagers, either directly or indirectly, is a very sensitive issue and a major focus in the society, especially the government.

               In the new edition of Kamus Dewan (1993: 1046), youth is defined as "old enough or young. They generally have a different feeling in life; by location of residence and identity are influenced by the culture of their own lives. However, as teenagers, they share certain things in common, for example, the feeling of wanting to love and be loved, love and ambition. Teen word in English is called 'adolescence' and, often referred to the period of transition between childhood and adulthood in one's life. The period is usually divided into what can be termed early teens. The age of the reference period is between 12 to 16 or 18 years (Anuar bin Puteh, 2001). This time period is the most challenging for a young person, because it is they need someone or a group of 'Role Model' in the live well.

               Fair if a girl had feelings for other boys in a school, because this is a natural phenomenon of adolescent boys and girls in physical and mental development process from childhood to adolescence in the maturation process. Drs Awang Sudjai (19771903) believes that, adolescence is the age when a person is growing up, puberty and already old enough to get married. Some also define adolescence as a time of transition in the process of human development among the youth and adults (Khadijah Haidi Khalid l994: l). He noted that the youth is a stage marked puberty or old enough that the indications referring to the process of menstruation for women and for men they are starting to produce seeds through semen. In psychology, they began to be attracted to someone of the opposite gender, the boys started to attract girls, while girls start to take care of their physical appearance to draw attention to the teenage boy.

               That is what is happening among young people in schools, especially secondary schools the majority of students from the age of 13 years (level 1) to the students aged between 19 years (grade 6). And, in this age range we often hear the term 'Love Monkey', that love which is often impermanent and not be based on 'marry' agreement. Most of them, only because it meets the requirements of a feeling of 'wanting to love, to be loved' alone.

              It becomes worse when the issue of 'puppy love' or the 'coupling' in this school days led to moral decadence and moral issues, where the term 'dating' came into existence. Dating is not only, but also began action 'holding hands', kissing, groping, touching, and ultimately lead to the occurrence of an intimate relationship, where all the action is clearly forbidden in the religion of Islam.

ALLAH TAALA says in the Holy Quran:
"Say to the believing men: should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; That is purer for them; surely Allah is Aware of what they do. "

(Surah An-Nur: Verse 30)

That is, men are prohibited from seeing the woman's body except the face and palms. Because the other parts is an aurat (Nik Hazwan Hamizan, 2012). The aurat alone was illegal, how about hold or touch the opposite sex bodies outside of marriage? Though from a hadith narrated from Ibn Majah states that;
"Enlivening swine (pigs) are better than contact or touch (intentionally) with a non-mahram woman."
 Which means, in contact with her skin, holding hands between couples of the opposite sex who are not married are prohibited outright by Islam.

               Deputy Minister of Development, Women and Community Development Minister Datuk Azizah Mohd Dun said to the hearing in Dewan Rakyat, Kuala Lumpur, as many as 26 cases of abandoned babies were reported nationwide in the first quarter of 2014 (http://peraktoday.com.my/, June / 2014), which, according to the statistics of the Royal Malaysia Police (PDRM), Selangor recorded the highest cases of five cases, four cases followed by Sabah and Sarawak and Pahang each of the three cases. This new small fraction of cases are reported, how about the cases which are deliberately marginalized or hidden? And, more unfortunately, when majority of the babies involved teenagers, mostly Malay Muslims. Such a shameful to the name of religion among multicultural and multi-religious nation.

The question that arises in this paper is that, should this 'puppy love' or monkey love is left spreading freely among teenagers and secondary school students?


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REFERENCES
Anuar bin Puteh (2001) .Development AND YOUTH FORMATION BY ISLAM TIF perspex. Malaysia Review, vol. XIX, N0. 2 / December 2001. Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia, Bangi, Malaysia.
Nik Hazwan Hamizan (2012) .Why COUPLE IS ILLEGAL? COUPLE WHO SAID WHAT NAS IS ILLEGAL? Published in the http://www.nikhanz.com/

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